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by Abby Sakovich M.S., CCC-SLP
Time-out is a common technique used by many parents in an attempt to suppress
negative behaviors while disciplining their children. Despite a controversial past, research
supports the use of time-out in conjunction with positive behavioral techniques. In
other words, if parents implement time-out appropriately, it can go a long way to curb
negative behaviors and make way for positive behaviors to shine.
When implementing a punitive strategy such as time-out, experts suggest parents look
for and praise age-appropriate behavior often. Compromising, so long as it does not
reinforce negative behavior, may be sufficient disciplinary action for some children
instead of time-out. If parents do decide to incorporate time-out into their disciplinary
routine, they should know there is not a specific formula to follow, but the suggestions
below may be a good place to start.
Suggestions for an Effective Time-out
- Time-out is most appropriate for two to six year old children.
- Keep it simple – focus on one or two problem behaviors.
- Clearly communicate and demonstrate time-out will consistently occur in response to the selected negative behaviors – always follow through!
- Give clear commands, allow 5 seconds for processing, and praise any movement toward compliance immediately.
- In response to non-compliance, give one clear warning and then follow through with the consequence.
- A physically aggressive child should immediately go to time-out.
- Stick to one time-out spot – experts recommend a chair. This way, using time-out can generalize to other chairs in contexts outside the home.
- Use a timer (2-5 minutes is long enough).
- Allow kids to return to the activity they were removed from when time is up, especially if they were placed in time-out after attempting to escape a particular activity.
Every child is different and certain strategies may be more effective than others. In any
case, it is up to parents to decide which method is most appropriate for their children.
A strategy that allows children to flex their muscles of independence properly while
learning appropriate social behavior is a sure bet!
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